As the population returns to normal life—or at least post-pandemic life—and returns to on-site work, travel plans, and outings to theaters and restaurants, many pets are enduring loneliness and anxiety—not all, but enough so that social media users are pleading for advice about their dogs’ behavior issues and ads for pet sitters populate inboxes.
“My daughter tells me when I leave, my dog sits at the front door, facing the door, and whines. I can’t even go to my room without the crying. And I’m not even that interesting,” a Nextdoor member posted.
In their March survey of dog and cat housemates, pet-sitter network Rover.com reported that 93% of respondents indicated that the “pandemic pet” they adopted improved their mental or physical well-being and over 80% said that it made working at home even more fun. Robes, slippers, coffee, laptop and fur friend—what more could you want?
However, 40% of the participants expressed their own anxiety about going back to work and leaving their pets at home.
“Poppy is good by herself,” Emmanuella Pena said. “Usually, it’s me who worries too much and I feel bad and guilty, but she has the cat at home, too. She is happy when I get home, though.”
Separation anxiety is rough on pets, dogs in particular. Bethany W. Adams of the Humane Society of the United States described the condition as “a disorder that can develop when a pet is away from the human or other animal to whom she’s most bonded, resulting in a spectrum of behaviors that can include trembling, salivating, excessive vocalization, overgrooming, losing control of bladder, or even minor to major destruction of your home.”
Anyone who’s heard their dog whining blocks away or found the stuffing from the sofa pillows strewn throughout the house is nodding their heads. Cats don’t seem to manifest the condition as often as dogs do because they’re too vain to tell you. They might let you know by gluing themselves to your ankles when you get home, probably in a vengeful attempt to trip you; unrolling the toilet paper, crying in the window; or ignoring you for hours when you get home
“Signs can be subtle—things like repetitive behavior, yawning, licking, lip-licking, circling, shedding and inability to settle,” said Dr. Jill Goldman, certified applied animal behaviorist at DJG Animal Behavior Services.
Not every pet exhibits signs of the condition.
“Many pets thoroughly enjoyed having their owners at home throughout the pandemic, but certainly not all of them,” said author and animal communicator Terri Steuben. “Last March, I started getting lots of calls from clients about their growling dogs and hissing cats. Dogs became worn out and grouchy after getting walked many times a day by all members of the household. Cats hated the noise of the phone and computer and just wanted the people to leave so they could have some peace and quiet.”
Separation anxiety did not begin when pandemic restrictions ended. It’s been around for a while
This type of stress in animals is nothing new for people who’ve lived with pets, dogs in particular, for any length of time. Another study, conducted by the American Humane Association (AHA), cited behavioral issues as being among the top reasons that people relinquish their pets to shelters, and this was in 2016. This throws doubt upon the often strident reports of waves of shelter returns of pandemic pets, but that’s fodder for another trough.
However, people who’ve adopted their first cat or dog may not be ready for the effects of separation anxiety on their new friends. This is especially true if the humans have stayed home from work during the long pandemic months. The upcoming fireworks season, not that it ever abated since May 2020, adds another level of torment for animals and their people.
Myriad ideas for helping your pet through separation anxiety can be found on the internet or on social media, many of them helpful. But some people seem overwhelmed by the variety of suggestions and the patience it takes to make them effective.
“Nothing I’m doing is working!” virtually cried one frustrated Facebook poster. “This is so stressful. Right now, I’m leaving for 2 minutes and then I’m headed back in. My vet says she just needs to learn I’m coming back, but she’s not learning.”
Indeed, there is no silver bullet to cure an animal of anxiety. Instead, selected suggestions used simultaneously and coupled with a lot of patience can ease it.
“It’s typically a combination of desensitization and counterconditioning a dog to gradual departures, eliminating departure cues, providing environmental enrichment in the guardian’s absence, contented confinement, calm arrivals and departures, and, in some cases, anti-anxiety medication,” said animal-behavior consultant Susan B. Krebsbach, DVM, of Creature Counseling.
No step-by-step procedure. Instead, a treat bag of tricks
As with anything worthwhile, helping your pet—and you—through separation anxiety is no walk in the dog park. Where do you begin, then?
“First, we have to diagnose it properly,” Goldman said. “The more we learn, the more we know we can’t make a blanket statement [from the effects of separation anxiety on pets]. Some dogs are fine in the house by themselves, some dogs can be only with a particular person. It’s more complex than we initially thought. But it’s much easier to prevent it than to fix it.”
Goldman suggests starting practice early when you know that you’ll be returning to work in person, even if the date is yet unknown, or several weeks before a planned trip without your pet.
“Unfortunately, the first time people practice, it’s for half a day,” Goldman said. “They’ve been home because of the pandemic, and suddenly, they have to work. So, any time you’re making a change, you want to introduce [your absence] in very small doses so the animal doesn’t experience trauma. Once trauma is introduced, the impact is very strong.”
The following ideas don’t comprise a step-by-step guide to help your pet through separation anxiety, but they are steps in the right direction to help both of you get through it. Try out as many as you can, simultaneously when possible.
- Goldman says to introduce your absence in small bits, going inside and outside repeatedly and gradually increasing the time you’re gone. You could modify this if you have at least two rooms in your home by going into one room, closing the door, and then coming back out.
- Establish a routine that mimics your work schedule: leave the house, and return when you feel you’ll normally return. “Eventually, they develop a level of comfort with [the idea that] you’ve come back before, so you’re going to come back again,” said Nellie Goetz, DVM, in Adams’ article.
- Crate training, if done correctly, is a workable option for dogs. Lisa Darcy is an experienced pet trainer for Live Love Animal Rescue, and she recently took over as pack leader of TrotsDogs when founder Jo “JoJo” Stanford left to work for Cesar Millan. Darcy suggests placing the crate in an area of your home where your dog’s comfortable and slowly acclimating them to staying in it. Leave them alone for a short time, then for small periods, then all day. If time allows, she stresses establishing the routine long before you head back to your workplace.
- Some humans used ThunderShirts to simulate a hug. Goldman advised to give it a dress rehearsal for a couple of weeks. Condition the pet to relax with it—cats especially, as you know if you’ve ever tried putting a frock on a feline—before using it when you’re really gone.
- Exercise your pet, dogs especially, before you leave for work. This is a good time for a brisk morning walk, which will give them a chance to relieve themselves and will also tucker them out. Darcy said that a tired animal is tractable in a crate.
- Doggie day care, dog walkers and pet sitters will help keep your pet company if it’s in your budget. If not, maybe a neighbor or friend can stop by occasionally. Check sitters out carefully, and get personal references when possible. Make sure you tell the sitter about any anxiety-extinction strategies you’ve used so that they can continue with them.
- Playing whatever music your pet seems to respond to or turning on the TV for them eliminates that deathly silence. Other enrichment can be in the form of doggie puzzles and cat treat balls as well as favorite toys. Goldman suggests encouraging your pet to actually play with their food by giving it to them in a food-enrichment toy. This should occupy them to no end. Toys and puzzles must be taken away when you get home so that your pet will know that the items are associated with something good to have while you’re away. “Do this with caution—every animal is individual, and every treatment has to be individual,” Goldman said. “That toy can backfire on you. If they’re so stressed that they won’t eat before you leave, the therapeutic effect has been eliminated because the toy is a predictor of your absence. It’s more important to understand what they’re doing and why they’re doing it.”
- Getting a pet for your pet sometimes works, but it can be tricky. Good thing: you’ve rescued another pet. Not-so-good thing: Goldman suggested that you could wind up with two pets with separation anxiety. Each pet is different, and how each will react to a new housemate varies from delighted play to one boxing the other into a corner and attacking. “Although another pet may provide environmental enrichment in the guardian’s absence (or what I like to call “separation fun”), it is not a guarantee for every pet, nor does it address the [behavioral problems] that need to be considered,” Krebsbach said.
As an absolutely last resort, if your pet’s anxiety is over the top, visit your vet and have them prescribe an anti-anxiety medication. Don’t go to the internet or social media to find out what “experts” or friends recommend—this is your pet’s health, and a professional is required. This goes for CBD oil as well.
“No one really knows about doses of CBD oil,” Goldman said. “The solution you chose might be deleterious.”
But there are good resources online for education. Goldman recommends the pet behavior articles in the ASPCA website. The articles address numerous issues and behaviors that your pet might manifest.
Talk to the animals? Admit that you do it!
One final thing you can do: be your pets’ Dr. Doolittle and talk to them. Steuben advises to be simple, as if you were talking to a grade-school child. Dimes to dog biscuits, you engage in various levels of conversational silliness every time your pet pads into the room.
“Tell them as soon as you can that things are going to change and when,” Steuben advised. “Then, remind them as the day approaches. You can say something like, ‘Next week, I am going back to work. When that happens, I will be gone all day and you will be by yourself. Remember when I used to do that?’”
Steuben said that any time you’re ready to leave, tell them three things to reduce their anxiety: where you’re going, what they can do while you’re gone—take a nap, play with their toys, shed on the carpet—and finally and most importantly, what you’ll do together when you get home—go for a walk, cuddle on the couch, play with toys in front of the TV.
“This last point is key to them understanding and picturing that you are really coming back,” Steuben said.
And you know? All that just might reduce separation anxiety, if not in the dog or cat, most assuredly in you.
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